Hello....

Friday night was a great night! The kids and I met some friends at the bowling alley for Rock N Bowl. The kids had a blast! It was a great family night. After which Grandma took the kids home for me and the adults went out for a bit without the little people. It was nice to have a night off, even if it was only for a couple hours away from everyday responsibilities.
As a single mom people do not realize that for most of us mothering/parenting is a full time job ontop of the fact that we have to work for a living as well. So it was nice to get away for a few hours.

Like any single parent my days are about the kids. Homework, meals, laundry so they have clean clothes to wear, playing on the floor with Little Man, reading stories or watching movies. Driving to school functions or to playdates. Going to the school to drop off the forgotten flute, backpack or jacket. Among many more little and not so little things. I love this aspect of my life and I would not change being a mother (single or not) for anything. However, we all need a few hours to ourselves. I may not get it once a week or even once a month as a single parent, but when I do get it I enjoy it. Even if a small part of me is wondering if the kids are alright! :)

I think we single moms (or dads), especially those of us who are full time single parents should make it a goal to spend at least 30 minutes a day doing our own thing (of course for me this is either after they go to bed or during Little Man's nap time while the older ones are at school. This time could be spent doing your nails, pedicure, reading a book, or whatever it is that makes you happy and does not involve housework, work or parenting. :) Just make sure that the little people are safe for that 30 minutes otherwise your relaxing 30 minutes will not be all that relaxing! :)

Hope that all is well with you in your world!

Until next time....

I am sitting here staring at a blank screen trying to think of something that I can put on here. Of course being a writer I know that a blank page is the best thing for creating writers block. They say never stare at one, just start writing and something will come to you.

Being single in general I think is a great thing. Being a single mom has some very trying moments. Something that feel close to what I imagine being suffacated with a pillowcase would feel like. Everything is up to you and everything is dependant upon just you. So if you screw up, then there is no one to take the blame with you, its just you. Then again when those little moments where one of the children make you proud you can take 100% of the credit....at least in my situation I can. I know there is a lot of good and with the good comes the bad. There is no way out of that, but looking at the good helps when the bad hits.

Hope that all is well with you all....

Until next time....

There is always humor in your situation if you are willing to look for it. Sometimes it can be really hard to find. Luckily for me I have four comedians for children. What can be even harder is trying not to laugh at them with their knowledge of my doing so.

Tonight Steffy (aka Miss Drama Queen) was at the table doing her homework and talking about how her teacher is making her life miserable by making her doing alphabetizing. Her teacher only gives her this for homework, of course, only to make Steffy's life miserable and so that she fails the third grade. I mean I totally get this. From their she starts going on how she might as well not do it because she knows she is gonna fail the third grade! LOL. This went on and on and on and on for the length of time it took me to put the groceries away and get supper on the table. I tried (like any good mom would) to calmly tell her that Mrs G was not out to get her and got, "of course you take her side! Adults always take other adults side and the children are ignored." As if!

I love being a mom, but more importantly I love being my children's' mom! They make my life a lot more funnier than it would otherwise be!

Hope all is well in your world!

Until next time....

Lonelienss and Single mom status

When I was a married stay at home mom, all the single moms told me that being a single mom was lonely. To some extent I find they are right, however, the majority of the time I find that I rather prefer it and its not all that lonely either. I have friends that I hang out with, and family that help out.

I can see where some might think its lonely being a single mom though. On the surface it looks like I am doing it all alone, and for the most part I am, and there is no one for me to "vent" too and that is true too. That is what I have this blog for, right? Right. Day to day life keeps me busy from the time I get up until the time I literally fall into bed at night. By the time I get the kids up, ready for school and out the door in the morning it doesn't dawn on me that I am doing this alone, as I did this alone when I was married. Now that I have to go to work, fit in homework time and dinner and the various other things I need to get done, things I never did before, I do not have time to realize that I am doing the job of both mom and dad.

My kids miss their dad, granted, but they are happy, healthy and very well adjusted children and that is more than I could have ever hoped for married or single. Our life works for us and even though there are things we would like to change (for instance Kira wanting her own room with a lock on the door), we have adjusted to our new roles and life.

Sure there are days and moments when I want to pull out my hair or lock my self in the bathroom and never come out (usually when they are all trying to kill one another) but it passes. Not to mention I know many married moms with husbands around to help, who feel exactly the same way I do occasionally and they even feel lonely at times. Imagine that! :)

Hope that all is well with everyone.

Until next time....

Happy New Year :)

I know that I am late posting Happy New Year, but I do hope that everyone had a great holiday and a Happy New Year! I don't make New Years resolutions because they are doomed to fail. Have you ever made a resolution that you kept? Instead I make New Year Changes. Changes have a way of sticking better than resolutions.

So one new year change I am making is to make the children my first priority and spending more time with them. SO every saturday is dinner night out. Every other Friday is family game night and the other Fridays are Family movie night.
I also have decided to put their dad out of everyday conversation. To most people this sounds extremely harsh, but living everyday with them asking why he doesnt call or send them christmas presents is enough. Daddy started out being a really good dad but lately sperm donor status seems to be the new role he has decided to take on. He believes its my responsiblity to make them call HIM instead of him being the Dad and calling them. I wish I knew how to fix that situation, but I don't so instead I am resigning to asking them only once a week if they want to call him and if they say no, then that is the end of the conversation.

Why is it that it seems that men have no interest in their children unless they are there every day all day?

Anyway enough of that. Working and raising 4 children keeps me pretty busy. My goal is to have a place of our own as soon as possible. As a family we need our own space so that they can have their routines established and be themselves. Tired seems to be a permanent fixture in my life, but its worth it to have all my children with me and watching them grow up. Its sad that Matthew will be 3 soon and Kira will be 12 very shortly. I have no idea where the time goes.

Well now its time for me to go do the few things I have to do before getting ready for work! I hope that all is well with you all!

Until Next Time.......

random thought

Even as adults we are always learning. It seems that no matter what we facw or learn we always seem to have learned a few things about ourself. You would think that by the time we hit 30 we would already know who we are and what we want.

i am still here

Wow working and being a single mom is working on kicking my ass lol. Just wanted to let you know I was still around just busy.
Hope all is well with you all.
Until next time...